I am encouraging women to address the chicken, but I fully support those who are focusing on the egg.
Internal obstacles are rarely discussed and often underplayed.
Throughout my life, I was told over and over about inequalities in the workplace and how hard it would be to have a career and a family.
I rarely heard anything, however, about the ways I might hold myself back.
These internal obstacles deserve a lot more attention, in part because they are under our own control.
We can dismantle the hurdles in ourselves today. We can start this very moment.
I never thought I would write a book.
I am not a scholar, a journalist, or a sociologist.
But I decided to speak out after talking to hundreds of women, listening to their struggles, sharing my own,
and realizing that the gains we have made are not enough and may even be slipping.
The first chapter of this book lays out some of the complex challenges women face.
Each subsequent chapter focuses on an adjustment or difference that we can make ourselves:
increasing our self-confidence ("Sit at the Table"), getting our partners to do more at home ("Make Your Partner a Real Partner"),
not holding ourselves to unattainable standards ("The Myth of Doing It All").
I do not pretend to have perfect solutions to these deep and complicated issues.
I rely on hard data, academic research, my own observations, and lessons I have learned along the way.